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Back to Blogging—Because Therapy Isn’t Just a Buzzword

Well… I started therapy. Again. It’s funny—this cycle. I was in therapy. Then I wasn’t. Then I thought, Maybe I should go back? Speak all the things. Say the quiet parts out loud. The things I “should” have gotten over by now, or the things I probably “shouldn’t” still be replaying in my head. But here’s the thing—I couldn’t tell if I was doing it because it’s become a trend. You know, the self-care movement and “everyone needs therapy” Instagram infographics. Or… was it because I actually needed it? Spoiler alert: I did. It’s wild how freeing it feels to spew all the mess, the loops in your head, the doubts, the grief, without feeling like a burden. Without worrying that someone is tired of hearing you talk about the same heartbreak, the same loss, the same unanswered questions. At 32, you’d think I’d be over the grief of losing my dad. You’d think I’d have made peace with those friendships that faded, the ones I still grieve like a breakup. But grief is a shapeshifter—it doesn’t show...
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**Navigating the Holidays After Loss: Finding Magic Again**

 **Navigating the Holidays After Loss: Finding Magic Again** The holidays are supposed to be the most magical time of the year, filled with joy, laughter, and connection. But for many of us, that magic is shadowed by loss and grief. Unless you’ve been in this position, it can be hard to fully understand how deeply it affects you. For me, the holidays changed forever when I lost my dad. I was just 13 years old when my dad passed away five days before Christmas, two days after his 35th birthday. That kind of trauma leaves a mark. It’s not just about losing someone you love; it’s about trying to put on a brave face during a time that’s supposed to be joyous while feeling like a huge piece of your life is missing. To make things even more complicated, I later found out he wasn’t my biological father. But that doesn’t change anything for me. He was my dad, and his absence during the holidays is still felt deeply.  **The Magic of the Holidays Is in the People Around You** There’s a ...
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**Breaking Free: How Cutting Ties with Negative Influences Can Transform Your Life**

 **Breaking Free: How Cutting Ties with Negative Influences Can Transform Your Life** There comes a moment in life when you realize that the people you surround yourself with—family or not—can either lift you up or weigh you down. For many of us, it takes years to understand that we don’t owe anyone access to our energy, especially if that relationship is draining, toxic, or holding us back. Let me tell you, that realization? It’s incredibly liberating. For the longest time, I believed that being a part of a family meant enduring negativity, judgment, or manipulation simply because they were “family.” It felt like an unspoken rule that you had to stick it out, even if it meant sacrificing your own happiness. Breaking free from that mindset was one of the most eye-opening experiences of my life. **You Can’t Change People Who Don’t Want to Change** One of the hardest lessons I’ve learned is that you can’t force growth on anyone. People will only change when they are ready and willing...
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Welcome to My World of Thoughts

Welcome to My World of Thoughts This space is my personal journal—a place to spill all the thoughts swirling around in my head. If you’re here, welcome! Whether you’re just curious, looking for insight, or simply enjoying the chaos, I’m glad you’ve stopped by. Let’s be real: having ADHD is like living with a brain that literally never shuts off. I mean literally. I could be having a conversation with you while simultaneously having five other conversations inside my head. It’s exhausting, confusing, and honestly, not something people really talk about enough. In today’s society, it feels like everyone has something they’re dealing with—whether it’s depression, anxiety, OCD, or stress. And while these struggles are real and valid, ADHD has been my personal challenge for as long as I can remember. What’s wild is seeing it come full circle with my daughter, Millie, who also has ADHD. It’s been an interesting journey. Honestly, helping Millie navigate it has been easier because I’ve been ...
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How to Overcome Anxiety When Dealing with a Toxic Family Member

✨Navigating a relationship with a toxic family member is incredibly challenging. The anxiety, frustration, and desire to make others see the truth can be overwhelming, but finding peace starts with focusing on your own well-being rather than trying to control others’ perceptions. Here’s how: 1. Let Go of the Need for Validation It’s natural to want everyone to understand how deeply you’ve been hurt and how toxic someone’s behavior is. But constantly trying to prove their wrongdoings can consume your energy and leave you feeling stuck. Remember: you don’t need validation from others to recognize your truth. People often see what they want to see, and it’s not your job to convince them otherwise. Shift your focus: Instead of trying to change others’ views, focus on healing yourself. Write down your feelings, seek therapy, or talk with someone who truly understands. 2. Set Boundaries Without Guilt Toxic family members often push boundaries, leaving you feeling trapped or manipulated. Sett...
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💡 Let’s Talk About Competition & Growth 💡

  💡 Let’s Talk About Competition & Growth 💡 Why is it that so many people shy away from competition? 🤔 Competition is healthy . It pushes you to strive harder, aim higher, and grow stronger. It challenges you to keep reaching, to never settle for “good enough.” Without it, we risk stagnation. Personally, I find myself creating little competitions in my head with people I meet—not out of jealousy or negativity, but as a way to set goals and push myself to be better . These mental competitions allow me to focus, grow, and become the best version of myself. Competition isn’t about beating someone else; it’s about rising to meet your own potential. But here’s the thing: Why don’t more people openly share their journey? Why don’t we talk about how we’re financially growing, the hacks we’ve discovered, or what’s actually working? What’s the average savings account balance? How do others tackle debt? Where’s the best place for your money to grow with the highest interest? ...
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💭 Reflections on Boundaries, Growth, and Letting Go

  💭 Reflections on Boundaries, Growth, and Letting Go Life has a way of teaching us hard lessons, and one of the biggest is learning to protect your peace. 💕 It’s so important to surround yourself with healthy relationships , and that includes marrying into a family where love, respect, and kindness are the foundation. Toxic family dynamics can ripple into your life in ways you never expect, draining your energy and pulling you into cycles you don’t deserve. Healthy families build you up, not break you down. And then there are friendships. Losing a friend, especially one who once felt like family, can feel like a death . The grief is real, and the healing? It takes time—sometimes years. Let yourself feel it, process it, and, most importantly, grow from it. Friendships, like any relationship, require mutual respect and effort. When that balance is lost, it’s okay to step away, even if it hurts. Boundaries are not selfish; they’re necessary. They protect your mental health...
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